We are all about 100th cousins. Everyone alive is related. Logically, every human being who has ever had sex, has had sex with a relative. How close the biological relationship is for any two people, however, is oddly deemed to be in the purview of the laws of some countries. While there may indeed be biological reasons to avoid inbreeding (or not), some find it disgusting that society can imprison adults for consensual behavior simply because others do not like it. This is why this story gets the “Control Freak” tag.
They hold hands, they kiss, they stroke each other’s arms, they listen attentively to each other. They are totally besotted.
What makes this scene so disturbing, however, is the fact that Danielle and Nick are half brother and sister.
Incest remains one of society’s last taboos, as this troubled young couple know only too well. Prison is the ever present threat to this forbidden union.
“I know that loving my brother in this way is wrong morally and legally, but it just feels right,” says 22-year-old Danielle.
“The only way to explain it is to say that the day I met Nick, I felt I had finally met my soulmate. Everything clicked. I would marry him if I could.” …
Earlier this month the pair were put on a year’s probation by Kirkcaldy Sheriff Court after admitting incest, at an earlier court hearing. …
They were warned that if they had sexual intercourse again they could face a jail sentence of up to two years.
After nine months enforced separation, which was part of their bail conditions, the pair celebrated their reunion with champagne and Nick was this week planning to move back into Danielle’s flat in Glenrothes.
Surely they are playing with fire? Both insist they will not have sex again, but admit they are still infatuated with each other. Both still act like lovers rather than siblings.
They’ve even discussed moving to another country, such as France, where incest is not illegal so they can live together as partners – although they would not be allowed to marry.
They accept that, even if they were to remain lovers, they can never have children together because of the genetic risks to the child of inbreeding. …
While Danielle and Nick’s story is undoubtedly shocking, it is not as uncommon as many of us might wish to think.
Genetic sexual attraction is a recognised psychological phenomenon, which sometimes affects siblings or blood relatives separated at birth, who then meet later as adults.
The term is believed to have first been coined in America in the 1980s by a woman called Barbara Gonyo, who wrote about the unexpected lust she felt for the adult son she’d given up for adoption 26 years earlier.
The relationship was never consummated because those feelings were never reciprocated and they eventually faded when her son married.
According to research, first published in the British Medical Journal in 1995, by Dr Maurice Greenberg and Professor Roland Littlewood, 50 per cent of people seeking post-adoption counselling “experienced strong sexual feelings in reunions” with their real family.
This can happen between siblings, mother/son and father/daughter and is believed to be the adult response to the absence of “bonding” in childhood.
The natural repulsion brothers and sisters often feel for each other as children is a safeguard against incest and those who miss out on that bonding, according to psychologists, can develop obsessive feelings for their sibling as an adult.
Those feelings may or may not become sexual, but those that do take that course challenge our notion of incest because there is no coercion or abuse between consenting adults.
Danielle and Nick believe that they too are victims of genetic sexual attraction and are only speaking now because they want to highlight an issue few people are prepared to talk publicly about. …
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As a compromise of sorts, the courts in their native Scotland allow the couple to live together but not sleep together.
Some states have a godawful nosy obsession with controlling what every citizen does.
Nanny state is a conservative term of British origin that conveys a view that a government or its policies are overprotective or interfering unduly with personal choice. The term “nanny state” likens government to the role that a nanny has in child rearing.
How is the USA today on the issue of sex between close relatives? There are different incest laws in different states. Is incest legal anywhere in the USA? Two states have decriminalized it, although they do not permit marriage.
Rhode Island decriminalized incestuous relationships in 1989, though like in New Jersey, marriages are banned and void. …
Incest is legal in New Jersey “for people over 18, as long as it’s a consensual relationship,” Gilbreth said.
But restrictions apply, just as they do for couples with no blood relation. Sexual relations between any adult and anyone under the age of 16 are defined under New Jersey law as sexual assault or aggravated sexual assault.
New Jersey law also bars adults from having sexual relationships with 16- and 17-year-olds, if the adult has supervisory power over the minor. And sexual relations between relatives under 18 are barred explicitly.
Now you know. Strange but true.