Top 100 Life Lessons (A work in progress…)

By | December 27, 2012

Top 100 Life Lessons (A work in progress...)During a quantum jump a more successful me in a parallel universe told me to make my personal list of most useful life lessons. Here, in no order yet, is a first draft. I plan to revise this over time. Feel free to post your own favorite life lessons in the comments.

  1. Everything you think of has already been thought of and acted upon. Use that.
  2. Do your own research. Experts are sometimes wrong.
  3. Be curious and collect all the “facts” with an open mind. There are different sides to every story.
  4. Understand and don’t fall for logical fallacies.
  5. Decide slowly, and know the types and strengths of evidence behind your decisions.
  6. Stay calm and carefully review the details to find the answer.
  7. Know and admit when you don’t yet have enough information to answer the question.
  8. Exercise frequently. Break a sweat.
  9. Eat the good stuff.
  10. Get enough sleep.
  11. Learn to meditate. Do it daily.
  12. Find and know your mission in life.
  13. Align your intentions, words and actions.
  14. Nobody cares about you as much as they care about themselves.
  15. Forgive yourself and move on.
  16. It’s OK to be different. You’re not as different as you think.
  17. Somebody will always tell you your ideas suck. Take action anyway.
  18. You will make mistakes. So what? Make more.
  19. Make failure your friend. Harvest failures. Know outcomes and lessons.
  20. Don’t make the same mistake twice. If you do, don’t make it a third time.
  21. Ask for what you want. If you don’t ask, you won’t receive.
  22. Define your own rules for success. It’s a lot easier to rule your world than someone else’s world.
  23. People will rationalize and justify anything and everything to be right.
  24. The people who really care will still care whether they agree with you or not.
  25. You don’t need anybody’s support to make things happen.
  26. Figure out how to tell someone they’re wrong and also make them feel good.
  27. Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. You’ll be a mile away, and you’ll have their shoes.
  28. Religions and superstitions cause a lot of problems.
  29. Just because a billion people do something doesn’t mean it’s right.
  30. Everybody lies. Trust people anyway.
  31. Show gratitude. Acknowledge those who have helped you.
  32. Don’t think of cost. Think of value.
  33. Give away something you love. You’ll learn a) detachment and b) it feels great.
  34. Low calorie does not mean healthy. Stop fooling yourself.
  35. Fluoride is a neurotoxin and a byproduct of atomic bomb production. Don’t ingest it.
  36. If you don’t feel good you probably don’t need a doctor. Examine your diet.
  37. It’s OK if you don’t want to travel the world. There are lots of things to explore in your own backyard.
  38. Most TV is a waste of time.
  39. Keep a daily blog or journal.
  40. It’s OK to complain sometimes.
  41. It is easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission.
  42. You might think you’re not good enough, but you’ll surprise yourself when you try.
  43. It’s OK to feel sad.
  44. Passion can go a long way.
  45. Whether you hear it or not, a falling tree always makes a sound.
  46. Don’t compare yourself to other people. Compare yourself to yourself.
  47. Love someone with your whole heart, honestly.
  48. Do what you love even if you don’t get paid for it.
  49. There is always more you can do. But that doesn’t mean you should.
  50. Humans are the only mammals that drink milk after they’ve grown. They’re also the only mammals that drink another mammal’s milk.
  51. People want you to do what they say and follow their rules. Don’t be a pushover.
  52. Most people won’t agree with you.
  53. You never have to settle. Not in a relationship, not in a job, not ever.
  54. It’s OK if you don’t like something. Just don’t pretend that you do.
  55. Don’t chase money and recognition.
  56. Try something different every day.
  57. Learn something interesting, exciting and surprising every day.
  58. Earn your own respect, then respect yourself.
  59. Fill your life with quality people and ask their opinions.
  60. Keep your environment clean.
  61. Be organized. Know what you have and where it is.
  62. Don’t have unsecured debt. Avoid debt unless it will move you forward.
  63. An education is always worth it, even if you have to pay off loans.
  64. Anger is part of your immune system. Have clear boundaries.
  65. You don’t need as much money as you think.
  66. There will always be somebody more than you
  67. Practice Happiness, compassion and contentment.
  68. Learn and practice lucid dreaming.
  69. Learn a martial art.
  70. Dance.
  71. Take yourself on dates to the movies, dinner, concerts, travel. Enjoy alone time.
  72. Plan for success. Be prepared, but trust yourself to “wing it”.
  73. When your fears are irrational, do what scares you.
  74. If you help people get what they want, you will get what you want.
  75. Don’t blame anybody for your problems. They’re yours. Establish this and work on them.
  76. Maintain your personal hygiene.
  77. Improve your appearance (style, grooming, fitness, etc.)
  78. Friendships require attention. Feed and water your friends.
  79. Find people you admire and imitate them… your way.
  80. Push your boundaries, challenge yourself.
  81. Know your limitations.
  82. Consult your death to know what matters.
  83. Learn to let go.
  84. Play a musical instrument and/or sing.
  85. Pay yourself first. Save 10% of what you earn.
  86. Become an expert at something.
  87. Cultivate your emotional intelligence.
  88. Learn to take criticism.
  89. Learn to take compliments.
  90. Be as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are of your own.
  91. Keep a first aid kit in your house and in your car.
  92. Have enough food and water to survive for at least 2 weeks.
  93. Be a loyal and reliable friend.
  94. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
  95. Set aside time for planning.
  96. Develop your listening skills.
  97. Choose your battles wisely.
  98. Find work you love.
  99. Be practical, punctual and proactive.
  100. Have fun, schedule playtime/downtime, and also be spontaneous.

I keep thinking of more. Perhaps this will become my top 1,000 life lessons.

10 thoughts on “Top 100 Life Lessons (A work in progress…)

  1. adam

    go into the wild, at least ones ..

    build a fire

    climb a tree

    adopt a living creature

    plant a tree or 🙂


    build something with your own hands

    stand in the rain

    spend all your money


    get rid of old habits

    dont speak

  2. Fred Killer

    We weren’t created equally talented, never will be equal and any attempt to force true equality is doomed to failure; that is, unless you want to be a clone?

    The wise man however, understands that it takes all kinds for society to function.

    Not everyone wants to be idle and rich. Not everyone wants to dig ditches or mine coal. Everyone must be allowed to find their niche.

    Learn to live with less first, as money won’t make you happy if you are not already content with enough, for you cannot buy happiness and you cannot eat money. Neither can you take it with you.

    All that you will take from this life is your conscience. Could you live with yourself?

    Money is just a tool like any other and is therefore neutral. It is what we do with it – or more importantly, what we will do to get it – that makes all the difference.

    You could say that money is a spiritual test. How corruptible are you? Would you harm another for profit? If so, you are no better than a common thief.

    When you realise that you are an individuated aspect of God or ‘Oneness’ currently in human form for this brief but very intense period of experience, you will know that what you do to others, you surely do to yourself.

    Live simply, that others may simply live.

    There is enough for everyone if we learn to share.

    I will never be truly happy until everyone has enough. What good would great wealth do me unless it was shared with others less fortunate?

    Great knowledge carries a heavy burden; that of responsibility to share it. The same goes for great wealth.

  3. arjay001

    Doing good deeds to improve karma is like dancing in the middle of the fire to show off your fire walking skills. A lot can be said for a steady pace.

    1. Xeno Post author

      Great stuff, thanks! If you are reading this and have not yet done so, please post your favorite life lessons for us and tell a few friends to stop by and add theirs. My dream for 2013 is to publish the world’s largest collection of life lessons and words of wisdom.

      1. Alice R. Foster

        life is a journey, not a destination!

        it’s not about having what you want, but rather, wanting what you have!

        until the color of a mans skin is of no more significance than the color of his eyes…theres a war!

        live simply so that others may simply live.

        and my favorite…”you do what you can do, I’ll do what I can do, and together we will make a difference ” john denver

  4. Nathaniel

    I’m curious how you come to the conclusion that a tree makes a sound if no one hears it? Things only exist when we interpret it, otherwise everything is just energy. Even everything right behind where you are sitting doesn’t exist until you look at it. Mind @#$%

    1. Xeno Post author

      I believe the sound waves from a falling tree are the same sound waves if no one is there to hear them. In hearing them, we make them part of our reality, which is a mental model. We do create our own realities. But we don’t create the external world, we interpret it. Our brains build mental models of external things, as needed, using sensory input. When your brain creates a reality/model that doesn’t match the external world (as it does nightly in dreams) then you are hallucinating.

      I think we are like Dolphins who are always half asleep. We are frequently responding to partially imaginary stimuli. The point of mindfulness meditation (Be here now) is to see more through our senses and less through the veil of waking dreams.

      Upon re-reading your question, I see that you asked how I reach the conclusion that the external world exists without human conscious interpretation.

      As I work through my answer, I see that the explanation needs to be an entire post and not just a comment. Stay tuned.

  5. mike

    That to survive in this world one must learn to play along with the delusions and fantasies of the television addicts.

    Everything that you think you think wasn’t thought by you, it was thought for you by your television.

    With uncounted trillions of dollars going into marketing, advertising and psychiatry, and the tens of thousands of people graduating out of these programs every year, its not very likely the choices one makes are their own.

    Most people have traded in their belief of a higher consciousness for the belief that everything that they are told through their television is true and unquestionable. All hail the miracle box of science.

    All television and news is owned by the same people, their not truthful and they don’t like anyone else.

    University indoctrination seems to ruin people.

    Most people are caring and unselfish, as long as there is an audience around to see them being caring and unselfish of course.

    Of the more practical.

    Water, coffee, beer and not necessarily in that order.

    Every once in a while tell the people that you love that you love them, for some reason it seems to matter.

    Politicians are like underwear, they should be changed regularly or they start to stink.

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