Mothers Day and Thoughts On Selfishness

By | May 12, 2013

Happy Mother’s Day!

Everything that we are or hope to be, we owe to those who raised us.

As part my Mother’s Day gift this year, I will spend several hours today talking with my mother to figure out why I have not met my highest potential. Why have I not used my time to the greatest benefit of society? Is there still time to change my selfishness? How did I get so selfish?

Perhaps in the effort to build a strong ego my parents did not include appropriate negative feedback, limit setting and discipline.

How can I rewire my brain’s reward centers to align my habits with my highest ideals… permanently?

Did you cure a deep rooted selfishness? If so, how? I may need a long silent nature retreat.

… Although many elements of our society may encourage it, selfishness just hurts other people, sometimes at little to no personal gain. A selfish person also ends up losing friends or loved ones because no matter how charming or interesting a selfish person may be, a relationship with a selfish person is hard to maintain. A truly selfish person would never consider the possibility that they are selfish. Many think selfishness and pride are good things, and that putting the needs of others above your own is for suckers. …

Try to develop empathy… Allow yourself to imagine how they feel, what hurts them or makes them happy. …

Look for ways to help; anticipate the needs and feelings of others. Join others who are kind and reciprocate kindness. …

Selfishness is a root cause, it seems to me, of many correctable maladaptive and even antisocial behaviors. You may never be able to make up for past selfishness, but you must do what you can to right your wrongs. What counts is the sum of all of your actions. Add them up now.

If you owe, pay up. Apologize with a year of good behavior. Start today. Take a vow.

Science says we actually may not have free will. If you are unable to end selfish behaviors on your own, join my new self help group: Inner Change for Selfish Bastards.


The ICfSB is a non-religious organization dedicated to finding and adjusting memories and thoughts that lead to self-centered behaviors.

Members are Anonymous to the limits of current technology. You start by signing up for a email address.

Further directions will follow. Do it.

3 thoughts on “Mothers Day and Thoughts On Selfishness

  1. oliverthered

    Neurologically there are to parts of the bain associated with selfishness, they are mirror neurons and the default mode network.

    parts of the visual system work inversely to the default mode network… so visual cueing may help..

    also meditation is known to bring on psychosis, psychosis is strongly linked with overfireing of mirror neurons… it is, however, also associated with appearing like anti social personality disorder in some people.

    trauma is also another link to the default mode network and mirror neurons, and depression has the opposite effect in that you can’t get out of the loop of being too self focused.

    Research on things like ASPD (as in the how to spot a murder post you posted not so long ago) doesn’t seem to get published that much or used as a comparison very often.

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