Are men or women more likely to cheat? While men have always had a worse reputation for being unfaithful, recent studies show that women are catching up fast – but we are a lot more likely to lie about it, and a lot less likely to get caught.
Simply put, it seems that women are better at having affairs than men.
The news that Farrah Fawcett had a secret affair for 11 years without telling a soul is a classic example of the way a woman cheats: discreetly, in secret, and while carrying on with the rest of her life as normal. …
Biologically, too, women are programmed to be more careful about revealing an infidelity.
In purely evolutionary terms, men are programmed to sleep with lots of women, and women are programmed to attract and retain a quality mate.
Dr Holmes adds: ‘She will be very canny and keep her options open until she decides which of the men she is going to choose.’ Another reason women lie more about their affairs is simply that they can get away with it.
Historically, a man has put a higher value on the fidelity of his woman because he needs to be sure that any children she has are really his. This seems to produce a strange kind of emotional blindness in many men, once they’ve selected a partner to settle down with.
‘Whenever we question men about fidelity,’ says Dr Holmes, ‘they will very often admit to their affairs.
‘But if you then ask the same men if they think their wives or girlfriends have had affairs, too, they will be shocked at the very thought, or laugh and call it ridiculous.’ In other words, men want to think women don’t cheat, and women want men to think they don’t cheat. No wonder we’re better at secret affairs.
I’m not saying it is wrong, but this seems like a pretty big generalization. What about cultural differences?