Haley Batty is suffering from an amazing sleeping sickness that really does keep her boyfriends up all night.
A medical condition means she can’t help pestering them for sex from bedtime till dawn. But she’s ASLEEP all the time—and never remembers a thing in the morning.
And, far from counting their lucky stars, the exhausted lads all do a runnner because they can’t keep up with her dozing desires.
Haley, 23, explains about her condition on our video player below.
Haley’s been dumped by a string of men who got the hump when they asked “Was it good for you, too?” only to get the response: “Eh?” because she’d been unconscious all night.
She sighs: “I can have sex three or four times a night if the guys have the stamina, but in the morning I won’t know anything about it.
“My last boyfriend went along with it the first couple of times, but then he said it just felt peculiar being groped by someone who was asleep and dumped me.” She says her behaviour is a recognised medical condition. “I discovered the name for it, sexsomnia. It’s like a form of sleepwalking, only you don’t sleepwalk, you have sex.”
… “My last boyfriend dumped me because of it. He moved in with me and the first morning he woke up and said, ‘You were rampant last night. You couldn’t keep your hands off me’. He looked shattered and I explained about the sexsomnia. He laughed and said he’d look forward to more of that but I knew it would soon weird him out. In the end he couldn’t cope and moved out.”
Another boyfriend was upset when she told him she’d been fast asleep during his sex marathon.
“He completely freaked out. He thought I was mocking his prowess in bed. He told me he never wanted to see me again.”
She’s now under the doctor and seeking treatment from a psychotherapist and at a sleep clinic. Haley adds: “It’s a horrible feeling to wake up next to someone not knowing what you’ve been doing with them. All I want is to have a normal sex life and to be awake when I’m doing it.”
Sleep sex or sexsomnia is a form of non-rapid eye movement (NREM) parasomnia (similar to sleepwalking) that causes people to engage in sexual acts while they are asleep. The proposed medical diagnosis is NREM Arousal Parasomnia – Sexual Behaviour in Sleep, and is considered to be a distinct variant of sleepwalking/confusional arousals (ICSD 2).
The first research paper that suggested that sexual behavior during sleep may be a new type of parasomnia was published in 1996 by three researchers from the University of Toronto (Dr. Colin Shapiro and Dr. Nik Trajanovic) and the University of Ottawa (Dr. Paul Fedoroff). Later, several papers were published describing the problem and suggested that problematic forms of sleep sex are medically treatable “conditions” (see external links). The condition was defined in a paper called “Sexsomnia — A New Parasomnia?” published in the Canadian Journal of Psychiatry in June 2003. The first doctor to coin the term “Sleep sex” was Dr. David Saul Rosenfeld, a neurologist and sleep doctor from Los Angeles, California.
In some cases, sufferers are aware of their behavior for a long time before they seek help, often because they lack information that it is a medical disorder or for fear that others will judge it as willful behavior rather than a medical condition. However, the reality of sexsomnia has been confirmed by sleep disorder researchers who have made polygraphic and video recordings of patients with the condition while they are asleep and observed unusual brain wave activity during the episodes similar to that experienced in other NREM arousal parasomnias. It is a mind/body disconnect that occurs during sleep. The treatment has commonalities with other NREM parasomnias, and also involves specific interventions. By avoiding precipitating factors and ensuring a safe environment, the condition could be brought to a high level of control with minimal effort.
Sexsomnia is not always problematic or extreme for those who experience it or for their partners. There is a great variety in both the frequency and levels to which people are affected by this disorder.