Tonight I heard a poet speak. He said, “You must stop looking for love and become love. You must stop asking for love and become love. You must stop begging for love and become love.”
This annoyed me … but it drew me in. What does that MEAN?
I thought about it for hours. I’m sometimes the dumbest smart person I know. I couldn’t make sense of it. A person can not become an emotion! Meaningless drivel. It sounds like a fake formula. But the poet was genuine. So, what if I’m wrong? Around in circles I went.
Until it finally hit me… A person can become a source of love. That is what he was saying. So obvious.
Create love? How?
So, I Googled “how to become love” and hit this:
Love your self, first. Before you can share love, you must first have love for yourself. Otherwise, how can you share what you don’t have? It may be difficult to find happiness and peace if you don’t think of yourself as worthy of receiving it. Self love is the most important element of becoming a spiritually healthy person. Love for self gives you balance, it centers you, and it keeps you on track when circumstances in life attempt to derail you.”
Yes, great! But HOW does that work, exactly? What do you actually DO to get there, Dr. Google?
Dig and honor yourself
Forgiveness… is not only a form of self-love, it is completely an inside job. First you have to own your mistakes.
In order to forgive yourself, the Psychology Today article recommends that you do the following:
- Imagine a future where you totally love yourself and have totally owned your power
- Reach for an understanding of why you would choose limitations in your life. We are often taught by family and life experiences that being weak, sick or helpless is the way to get attention or help. Look at your own and other peoples attempts to get acceptance, attention and love. Ask yourself, what was I taught about being lovable?
- Then forgive yourself for having made mistakes. Imagine how your future self would forgive you for a mistake.
I’ve never thought about this. What was I taught about being lovable?
To be continued… I need sleep…